Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Livin la vida loca

Every marriage happens for a reason and as a result of conviction from both the parties, ideally should be that way else its not worth getting into it. The reason of trial and error are over with the concept of relationship as its way too difficult to retrack the path post marriage. Nevertheless in my purview its the woman who holds the card in a wedding. Let it be an arranged or love marriage it depends on how the girl wants to convince herself and her family and tell them how the guy would be best suited for her or not, which is the key to success. Parents might be a little hazy to begin with, for them the happiness of their ward is paramount and with all due respect they might even be checking how strong the guy/girl is in proceeding with the life changing decision. In any case, a no does not necessarily be a no forever as how we stand up to something is what could lead to a stronger and healthy relationship. Never forget its by choice and not chance.

In my personal case, having lived half my life and If I have to consider a partner I dont want to make a choice because someone said so but to be sure the lady has a meaning to my life. Gone are the stage where people are going to convince me on this aspect about a need of a partner not that am against it. I believe I can share a greater deal of friendship which is something I would resort for in a relationship. I know many who want it that way but there are very few couples who behave as good friends. The reason is it lets the other person to be free or let her be her and you be you and still get synced. Adjustments would happen over the course for sure but the core shouldn't be modified as that would be a recipe for disaster. If at all a situation arises and have to live alone which could be a possibility, its about being mentally ready as its ok to be alone and not lonely. Luckily I had been able to convey this to my parents and they have positively agreed to my viewpoint after deliberation. Well it may sound crazy but when addressing important matters I do a prep checklist to ensure probable Q/A so I dont get stumped in-between, this is something I did when I had to talk this matter and convince them as I dont want to sound irrational or emotional. What you convey is just 40% of the job and how you convey would be remaining 60%. Wish I had this maturity during my academic years :-)

Everybody dreams about their way of life, some  make it happen as their will takes them to glory but others might rejoice themselves in the quest of destiny and fate. Regardless of the end result its always worth giving a try and to relish the process, some are worthy and some arent! Livin la vida loca - Living the Crazy life !
Next article: Before mid February 

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Importance of doing nothing !

Having being a traveler backpacking around India and Europe, I had always ensured I do have sometime just for myself to do absolutely nothing. The exact meaning of nothing could be just sit and stare at the horizon with absolute zero thoughts and believe me I have succeeded in those.
It so happens every time I set foot in Goa and stare at the beach and the stars, I go into a mode which is inexplicable.  Not many may approve my style in Goa which is without alcohol in hand but honestly I don't need external factors to go high. Every place has a vibe and Goa without a iota of doubt has a positive vibe. May be people should take time to not just site-see, but realize what the place is about in-order to have complete feel of the aura.
One thing I have done successfully in Goa and also convinced my friends to do it is to be devoid of watch and technology. When they asked the time I just looked the sun and gave a figure ( I was close to about 5 mins :-). Why to do something periodically when our day to day work is so mechanical. So we just decided to do eat, play, drink, walk, run as we pleased and when it pleased.
Relax and Breathe easy after all we are all time bound .. 

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Aasai mugam marandhu pochey (Bharathiyar song)

One cannot hear a better lyrics / song than this and the wonderful rendition by Suchitra Karthik.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVeXcYw2kPQ

Got the English translation from the site (using the same here) Suchitra seems to have used 4 stanza instead of the 6 - http://www.lyricaldelights.com/2016/06/19/bharathi-aasai-mugam-maradhu-poche-lyrics-and-translation/

(1) aasai mugam maRandhdhu poachchae-idhai
yaaridam solvaenadi thoazhi?
naesam maRakkavillai nenjam-enil
ninaivu mugam maRakkalaamoa?

I do not remember that lovely face anymore!
Who shall I grieve to about this! Oh friend (female)!
My heart did not forget the affection- But
is it fair to forget the memorable face?

(2) kaNNil theriyudhoru thoatRam-adhil
kaNNan azhagu muzhudhillai;
naNNu mugavadivu kaaNil-andhdha
nalla malarchchirippaik kaaNoam

My eyes could visualize a person- In that
I do not see Lord Kannan’s complete beauty;
When I see his face- That
bright smile on his face isn’t there.

(4) kaNkaL purindhdhuvitta paavam-uyirk
kaNNan urumaRakkalaachchu;
peNkaL inathil idhu poala-oru
paedhaiyai munpu kaNdadhuNdoa?

The sins committed by my eyes- made
me forget the appearance of Lord Kannan;
Among all the women in this world – could
you find an ignorant woman like me?

(6) kaNNan mugam maRandhdhu poanaal-indhdhak
kaNkaL irundhdhu payanuNdoa?
vaNNap padamum illai kaNdaay-ini
vaazhum vazhi ennadi thoazhi?

If I forget my Lord Kannan’s face – Is it
worth to have these eyes?
You see, I do not even have a color image of him- Hereafter,
How can I live without shame, Oh friend (female)!

Wednesday, August 03, 2016

Mirage of Marriage

As per 2016 gender ratio for every 1000 males there are 944 female, I am in the 56 leftover :-)
I had been asked a few times of whats my expectation from my better half, am not in the market to buy something but rather in the world to live life. I do not go seeing multiple options as one might look better than the other and its not about taking the best but what's best for you. Its a beauty to overlook or tolerate flaws which one has to endure at some point and am happy to do it early. It may be a vagabond of thoughts or a no-brainer but that's what would define me.

Re-Dress: Its a girl who decides what to wear and when and this is not a question of liberal but just her wish. Being in India and with the substantial number of stalker eyes they are the best judge for their own good. Though I have never vehemently supported these claims, guess my inner voice have been subdued for quite a while though not lost in darkness. I had been lucky enough to have female friends who have not changed much post their marriage in the way they carry themselves, let it be what they wear, where they wear or how they wear.

Horror-scope: In this current world of arranged marriages, I had often spoken to my mom that we (children) don't select their parents but their spouses. Going by tam-brahmical view, never has an horoscope matched between siblings to see whether they get along well but they somehow manage to run the show. Its not always perfect but they do learn the art as its a question of understanding. Not that am against viewing of these 9 houses and many cross lines, but this does not guarantee life.

Miss-placed: In the current era of marriages, there is a qualm of expectation with regard to how the girl might end up in the new place. Its my firm belief at least from the surroundings I have been, the families have made life a lot easier than what it was. With people staying overseas that's sometimes a bane than boon as there is nothing worse than a lonesome/ boredom in a new place, its a question of adaptability which does take time to sink in.

Medi-Mix: I wouldn't be surprised if master health checkup come up before wedding in the near future to make a perfect match couple :-). Anyhow, there will be unforeseen circumstances in one's life but its important to stay alive rather than go kaput. May be I am just complicating the art of wedding but its good to raise the bar ... People ask for salary, company, where we live, do we have a car why not ask are we devoid of any social / mental / health issues. ( Now you know why am in the top56 leftover!). Being under medication for a decade I know the importance and definitely know how to keep myself fit and whomsoever is with me or want to be with me.

EQ: Emotional quotient is paramount these days, ability to respect one's partner's space and needs and to cater to them when required. More importantly, to remain pragmatic and amicably resolve disputes as and when they arise without allowing them to escalate into irreparable conflicts. These may be easier said or talked,when its comes to reality I had rarely seen this work,especially with Indians. Considering this is a land of spirituality and yoga we should be architects of this domain.

Finally, There are always nay sayers but just tune your mind to be +. Live Healthy, Live Happy. #Maghizchi

Germany - My Gateway to Europe

I had a dream/vision/goal in life that I should visit atleast 20 countries in my life time, never did I know that being in 1 country in europe would make that a reality. Seeing the current refugee and other palpable status in Germany which was my home for over 18 months, feeling a bit sorry for whats happen to the state which is known for the stringent timeline and process.
The dream come true began the first time I stepped in Frankfurt and took a cab, Mercedes S Class with plush wooden interiors driven by an Afghan and who played some Hindustani music. Riding at a speed of 140 kmph within mins and moving towards 180. I remember the noiseless ride and speed at which an Audi car overtook us when we were  driving @ 180, such a bizarro world:-)
Though initially it was 3 month trip, I spent the first weekend in Paris. I was always fascinated about Louvre than Eiffel and still is. I would spent as much time being lost in arts/painting which I don't understand or comprehend but for a sense of satisfaction. I dont the reason why its called romantic capital may be coz of you can find people smooching wherever you turn around..
Though I had lived and traveled around UK for 6 months the EU trip was enjoyable for many reasons. Below is the gist of cities I had been to, funnily I always wanted to do Czech but I didn't as wanted to leave some gap to go to EU again.
Germany - Berlin, Blackforest (Cake :-), Cologne, Dusseldorf, Frankfurt, Munich,Trier
France - Paris
Swiss - Bern, Zurich, Titlis, Chillon,beautiful chateau in the french-swiss border closer to geneva
Netherlands - Amsterdam , Eindhoven (twice :-)
Belgium - Brussels
Austria - Vienna
Hungary - Budapest
Italy - Pisa, Florence, Rome ( Would love to visit this country again for their food )
Spain - Barcelona
Portugal - Lisbon
Luxembourg - City
There is always more to see and enjoy, am waiting !!

Thursday, August 04, 2011

Journey to the Himalayas

It all started on a cool January morning, 27th to be precise, the date of journey for a week long trip to Himalayas from Chennai. The original plan was to revolve around the Panch Prayags popularly known as the confluence of rivers which forms the majestic Ganges and if possible to touch Auli. In reality I have never heard the name Auli ever in my life, but the idea of skiing in India did give my real shivers.

The trip started in the best way possible when my friend ‘R’ forgot the jacket which is a must when you are travelling to the North especially early in the year. He nevertheless managed without the same through out the journey, thanks to sweaters and multiple layered clothing. One big heaven of thanks to the authors of ‘Outlook Travellers Gateway – Uttarakhand’, without which the trip would have been a writing on the water.

Route: Chennai -> Delhi T3; Delhi ISBT -> Haridwar -> Rishikesh -> Rudra Prayag -> Karna Prayag -> Joshimath (6,000 ft) -> Auli (10,000 ft) -> Joshimath -> Vishnu Prayag -> Joshimath -> Dev Prayag -> Haridwar -> Old Delhi Rly station -> Delhi T3 -> Chennai

Day 1 – Jan 27

Luckily the flight to Delhi was on time on a not so foggy morning and no problems with the luggage as it was at Terminal 3, the better ones you can ever find in India. We were in no mood to waste time and so took a direct cab to Kashmere Gate, ISBT (Inter State Bus Terminals) to board a bus for our first pit stop which was Haridwar. It is supposedly 220 kms on road and it takes around 5 – 6 hours, I did hear by cab we can reach in around 4 hours. We found a bus which was leaving the terminal as soon as we reached, though there are many agents around pestering you to take the other so called comfy buses, do not fall for any trap. The government buses are far reliable, though you wont feel the same by the look of it. It was around 12 when we boarded the bus and by some thinking we bought few biscuits and water for our journey which was our saviour for the day and all through the trip.

Time Travel – I am sure this will be hard to believe, we covered 60 kms in the first 2 hours when we reached Meerut at around 2p.m., as it was supposed a highway which was clogged with people all way through. The stoppage was around 15 minutes a welcome break for all with the cramped seats. The next stop came in the couple of hours where we had our lunch which is couple of glasses of Musambi / Orange juice, the best I have ever had in my life so far (mind you no sugar J). We set foot in Haridwar at close to 6 p.m. and we had our first view of the ganges flowing through the city. We fell for a charm from a rickshaw man and shelled out 900 for a room out there, which was not bad but for this season it is expensive. This was our first lesson here and made sure we go to GMVN guesthouse for the rest of the journey - Cheap, Best and Reliable. We heard the famous ganga arti would be over by know, stretched out a bit and went for a long walk to Har ki paudi – the place where they perform Aarti and where the temples are located. It was close to 2 kms and colourful all way through, we had chaat on route – some solid food since boarding the flight and kept walking. The first sight was amazing, the sound of ganges, the chill, the atmosphere. The day ended soon with dal fry and phulkas, our diet for the next 7 days. We decided call the day off at around 9 pm in order to start the next day early and not before we tasted a sour UP Pan.

Day 2 – Jan 28

What’s supreme than a hot water bath on a cold chilly day. That’s exactly how the day began. Our first stop was to a hill top temple Mansa Devi Mandir via a cable car which is an enchanting experience, for the beauty of the hazy city can be seen all the way through. We left not before tasting a different fruit called ‘Ram Phal’, which costs around 10 rs per portion. We moved on to the Har –ki – pauri which is the focal point of Hardiwar for the dip in ganges. Even through the cold weather I was adamant on the dip and nevertheless took the same. It was an enchanting experience; I am still clueless on how I took the same. We continued our sight seeing for some more time visiting few temples in the vicinity and it was time to bid adieu to Haridwar. Our lunch was at a dosa place, who served hot oil less Dosas for a premium. But so was the taste. At around 2 p.m we took a bus to Rishikesh which is around 30 kms from Haridwar and it take an hour. This time we didn’t fall for any charm, we walked for some time near Rishikesh bus stand and took an auto to Sivananda Ashram, as we heard a lot of good about this place. But apparently we need to book the rooms here earlier, so moved to Omkarananda ashram nearby and lucky enough to get a beautiful room on the bank of ganges. It was around 4 p.m. when we decided to take a dip in the ganges of Rishikesh, this is very shallow to start with unlike Haridwar. It was almost like an ice bath in near freezing temperature, again the dip of a life time.

As we were clueless what to do next, we enquired about the place and paced our walk around Ram Jhula the temple nearby and all the way through to Laxman Jhula which is around 2 kms. On route we had a little treat in a German bakery in the form on cookies. This place seems to have more foreigners than Indians. We were bit late for the Evening Aarti, but still was a part in the final 15 minute chorus of bhajans and chanting. We had a very early dinner at around 7pm and classy affair all the way and I had one of the most blissful sleep ever in my life at the Ashram. Remember most of the hotels and food stalls close early, so it’s always good to have some back up in the form you need J.

Day 3 – Jan 29

This day was our first step towards the Panch Prayag, meaning 5 confluences of rivers. We decided to do the farthest one at earliest, as anyway the journey through out the mountain roads are treacherous. The distance from Rishikesh to Rudraprayag (which is the second of the prayag) is around 140 kms. On route to the bus we saw stopped over at a south Indian Balaji mandir, where the morning 8 am rituals for going on. We took a 9 am bus which was the only morning available bus (make sure you check before hand, if you are travelling J)) . It took around 2 ½ hours for our first break, the town of Dev prayag (the 1st of the Panch prayag). We had decided to have the prayag while returning, so after a 15 minute break, we were off to Rudraprayag via Shrinagar, yet another beautiful place and people. The scenery all way through is the only solace. In between we had a closure of roads due to land slide, but once again the place takes all the pain away. Close to 3 pm we were at Rudra prayag and without food, but we kept walking ,a long hike through a bridge and a steep ascent to the temple and even worse steep descent to the rivers. The music of water and the sight was mesmerizing; the water was in aqua blue color – the one you could see in swimming pools. After some considerable time we move to karma prayag which is around 35 kms from here. After asking bus and cab fellows, we boarded one close to 5 pm and we were around 15 people in 1 tata sumo, as it seems no vehicles ply in the night, meaning after 6 pm. We were waiting to get out of the cab, and it happened close to 6 pm.

We directly ascended to the temple and then descended to the rivers, and it became dark with in a matter of 30 minutes. Still the music of water clashing and chilly water gives the best refreshment. We took a room at GMVN for the night, which was on the banks. We even had a balcony and still silence could hear the river flowing. The first proper food for the day came that night in the form of roti and sabji. And it was all over for the day; a bit of shrill went through my body in wondering how much more steam is still left for further strenuous travel.

Day 4 – Jan 30

With no interest to get up from bed, but eventually had to as our morning bus to Joshimath was at 8 am. We had a lovely English breakfast in the room and left for our further ride. The morning vision of the prayag was even more beautiful. The distance is around 90 kms. Within the first hour we saw the first sight of snow capped mountains, that kind of rejuvenated. But it took around 2 hours to reach the first 40 odd kms, so the strain was not getting over and it was getting colder. Some where in the early afternoon we reached Joshimath, not before encountering the craziest kind of Himalayan serpentine roads, gorges and ravines. Headed straight to GMVN again and head a nice steamy tasty lunch. As luck would have it the usual cable car to AUli which is only around 20 kms by road was getting serviced. We took a cab for around 1400 Rs for a to and fro trip and an 2 hour long wait there. The climb was like we were going straight up, almost like vertical. The view got more beautiful all the way through and there I saw the snow for the very first time, a milky patch of ice on top of a leaf, tree, on the sides of the roads. Near to the destination point it had even started to snow and a minor traffic jam as a tata indica got stuck in the icy roads. We got down for a short interval to feel the ice and to have a snow shower.

We headed straight to the place where they were skiing and as soon we were there, couple of instructors asked for our shoe size so they could bring the kit. We spent around an hour getting instructions on skiing and trying a few bit in the snowy picturesque milky white slopes of Auli. The view was heavenly, as we could have seen the second tallest peak in India, Mt. Nanda devi if not for the cloud cover, I think that’s not unanticipated as we were over 10000 ft above sea level. An hour of skiing was itself a bit tiring and we took of for overhead sight seeing in the cable car which covers around a distance of 500 metres one way. I was Astounded when I saw a tea stall at this place. Soon it began to snow and we decided to move back to Joshimath but before we had a chilled Coke out there. After a few minutes rest, we headed to the Adi Shankaracharya ashram which is one of the 4 centres he had established; there is even a Kalpavriksh, wish fulfilling tree. The entire place is surrounded by high peaks and it’s blissful to say the least. From there we went to Narsingh mandir, which is one of the proclaimed temples in India where we even found a script written in tamil in the altars. The day came to a close but not before a rare once in a life time experience, we saw a star move through the sky, it traversed through the entire sky – a WOW experience. With this in mind, the day came to a close with a nice hot dinner and getting tucked under a much need blanket.

Day 5 – Jan 31

We were off to a very cold morning, with the hot water not hot enough, we they were fuming, but in a matter of seconds they just turn cold. Somehow post taking a warm bath, we headed to Vishnuprayag which is like 20 kilometres from here and it was Indo – China border region. There were lots of army personnel all the way through. The waters here were just freezing, it was as if its coming out of a glacier, no wonder it did, as this is the last of the prayag and its highest point. Apparently the sacred shrine of Bardinath is just 25 kms from here, but was anyway closed as it was snowing heavily. Close to noon we decided to bid farewell to Joshimath, for me it was with a heavy heart. We had a light meal and boarded to bus to Karnaprayag, as we did a lot of debating whether should we spend some Nandprayag as well, however had to cut that out in fear of time and connecting vehicles inorder for us to reach the desired destination for the day. We did however see Nandprayag from the bus as it’s the only Prayag which does not have any temple at the merging point of rivers. Once again we were lucky enough to get a proper Govt bus from Karnaprayag to Devprayag which is the first of the Prayags, for sure the bus was far comfortable and spacious than the rest.

Somehow we were at Devprayag, earlier than anticipated, though we were caught in traffic jams in most of the places. The GMVN guest house is somewhere far away from the so called town and once again we were lucky enough to get down nearer to that place. To out astonishment found no one out there and caught couple of boys playing cricket who helped us in finding the manager. Soon we were given a room, which is not the best we had through the entire trip, nevertheless was satisfactory. After a short break, at around 6pm we set off to explore. To our amazement there were no proper directions or roads leading to the Prayag or the river, though we did manage it somehow. As also the age old temple which Rama has visited on his trip from Lanka. Walking for over an hour we reached the bus stand as that seemed the only place where we can get some food. Again most of it was closed, as they generally close by 7pm as no one visits post that. They were kind of to accommodate us for the roti and dal, another lesson learnt here. Not to assume the opening / closing hours of anything ! Post dinner we were fluky to get a hitch hike in a van till the guest house, else if would have been a 45 min to hour long walk, that too sans no light. We soon crashed in as our bodies could take no more.

Day 6 - Feb 1

At half past 8, we walked straight to the mandir and the prayag. As expected there was none out there, but we did pay around 100 rs for the Pandas there, we didn’t any such kind anywhere. Lucky to get away J. Spending a considerable time there, we had stuffed parathas for breakfast. One of the best one can ever have. They were also explaining about the place and how much ganga used to flow at times of monsoon. We were at awe thinking about the force of water. Closer to noon, we bid adieu there and caught a bus to Haridwar our destination from where our over night train was to Delhi.

We reached without much hassles, as we were now familiar with the place and location. We spent a considerable time at the Railway station, the one place where we can spend as much time without being questioned; nevertheless the waiting rooms are all packed. Close to evening, we walked out for the usual stroll with the baggage in the cloak room. We are on dot for the evening Ganga aarti, the crowd was slowly escalating, but managed to get the seat in the first steps with our feet in the Ganges. It was a marvel from there on for about 40 minutes, the aarti and the music taking over the entire place, is a real treat to watch. Now to answer the tummy, there are various eatables out here, some kind of patties, masala fruit chat, chaat items, noodles etc. Don’t miss these and all this are on road side. Post the multi dinner session, it was our turn to wait at the railway station which was at midnight. In shivering cold we did manage somehow but the shock came later on as most of the passengers on the compartment had a proper blanket or rajai and we were in the II sleeper. With the cold wind we did struggle through the night but was bared somehow. I pity my friend who had to take the wrath as he was in devoid of even a proper jacket or blanket. With people talking in as many languages I try to drift down to sleep.

Day 7 - Feb 2

Our final day of the eventful journey, we landed on time or even early I should at the Hazrat Nazamuddin. First thing to do was to have a hot coffee to save our self. We checked out the rooms at the railway station which seemed nominal and spacious for a night as we were going to stay for less than 10 hours. We got a nice room and got freshed up after a short nap. Our walk started soon afterwards, heading to the nearby metro station for a one day trip card. We visited Jama masjid (from outside), Connought place where we had a sumptuous lunch at haldirams and had the most delightful pan – a Strawberry and Chocolate pan. They were unexplainable to say the least. It was then going around a few places here and there and finally a visit to the Red Fort and around. We did manage to see some museum out there and decided against doing anything out of ordinary as the Delhi traffic cannot be under estimated. The problem starts here, this was the time when the Metro to airport was still not commissioned, so we had to take a detour for metro or to take a taxi. My friends adviced me to take the latter. The railway station taxi fellows no wonder are the same through out India, they charge exorbitant rates and no meters please. This is exactly what happened though there was police out there. They asked for about 400 Rs and we said T3 – Terminal 3, they hiked the prices. Gutted we walked out of the place and generally the autos don’t come far off places. After roaming around for over 30 minutes and asking as many autos, we had to give up and decided to go to the same taxi fellow at the railway station. Just the stroke of luck, a auto fellow accepted for around 300 Rs and we were happy not for the price but the thought of not going back to the taxis. In around 45 minutes we were at the Airport. Well the T3 is an amazing terminal ,I can only pray that it stays the same way through out. The flight was on time and in retrospect it was a wonderful journey. This will be one of the lively moments in my entire life. A trip worth revisiting, probably the Char dham yatra to top it with.

Ganga, I will meet you again !!

Note:

a. Pre-paid taxi drivers in Delhi tend to cheat and ensure that you don't pay for baggage or tolls

b. It's better to stop for a shorter duration in Haridwar since Hari-ka-Pauri/Masa devi/Chandini devi are the only places of interest. The aarti is of utmost interest.

c. Try to head to highest point as quickly as possible, since the mountain is weathering away and landslides/road works are a common sight. Never underestimate the travel time.

d. Feb is the lean season and temperatures can go as low as 3 deg C at higher altitudes. Since 98% of rooms would not have a heater, proper winter clothing is a must. Multiple layer of clothing always keeps your body insulated from the cold. Better travel during this period to save from the crowd.

e. Most of the places located in mountains shut by 6.30PM and you will not be able to travel by local transport or even food after that

f. Haridwar, Rishikesh are in the plains and trip along the mountains to Auli/Prayags is possible only via Private mini buses/Maxi jeep/Hired cars. We heard that the govt. buses are operated at a better frequency only during the peak season

g. Additional guide for Uttarakhand - http://www.scribd.com/doc/48200574/Uttarakhand-Travel-Guide

h. Eat light before you travel in the mountains and keep nuts handy in long travel

i. Don’t pay much heed to people, in Haridwar or anywhere, who claim to be owners of ganga and literally demand money to clean it.

j. Careful with your camera. Most of the location are scenic, better enjoy with your eyes first.

k. Try to plan less and act more, be ready to alter your plans if required. Make sure you get the bus timings prior to your travel as there are no other ways out.

All the Best !

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Right to Marriage!!


The Indian marriage system could be the most enigmatic in terms of understanding how the marriage in reality takes place. Anyone could argue the fact that it’s hogwash as it’s just two people involved in the making and the outcome. Guess what, this is a total farce. India in itself is just more than a country with the states acting like one and the number increasing just like our population. Then what’s all the fuss about and what it got to do with the topic mentioned here.
With the bride choosing the groom or vice versa through the manipulated customs of match making is only one part of the story. In the modern world of free will and gender equality hope the purpose of marriage is not lost in the man hunt. Albeit the importance of education,career and growth, there is importance of marriage. Seeing some of my married friends live separately post marriage due to varied career interests and growth is a bit disheartening but may be it suits the best. 
Taking things in a different perspective, appreciate people coming out more openly with their interests, likes, where and how they want to be . One thing for sure, heart is not just the one thing which is required for marriage to happen :-)  !

Monday, November 01, 2010

What i want to be - Really

Clueless - Ambition what that means? I remember the good old days, apparently my younger days when people used to ask me what i aspire to become - A pilot - a air force that too, Now I believe quite a lot of young boys do say that. Frankly I don't know what it takes to become one - even now, I didn't even make an attempt to become one. My ambitions have been so volatile, even if I had one !
Why I chose to do an MBA after my Master in Computer science, please am clueless (cliche - I know). Sometime back i was thinking what it takes to be not working sitting in one place - pondering about money what comes in for the company. 5 years into the career and it has become like that -I don't need to know that, Why should I. For sure there is no % for me, i cant even say am in Mid - management. But life has become like that. Being singly gives some kind of leverage as well with regard to the spending. A teetotaler in itself says how much money is not wasted for minutes of Nirvana.
But coming back to the point about ' what I want to be - guess the simple answer is Not what am dong today ( Doesn't mean am not liking my current job:-)
Aazaadi Dil ki !